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Want to fight less?

Conflict can make your relationship stronger… but you need the right skills.

This online course is perfect for couples who want to…
  • Bicker less
  • Harbor less resentment
  • Have more fun
  • Resolve conflict faster
  • Prevent fights altogether
  • Feel seen and heard
  • Be happier together

Try 7 brain-based exercises that will change how you approach disagreements forever. 


Learn to fight so you both win. 

$59
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You’ll see husband-and-wife therapists Dr. Stan Tatkin and Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin teach you the 7 exercises and a real-life couple practice them. 

Then, you can try the exercises at home with your partner. Together, we’ll learn the skills needed to fight so you both win: 

  1. Understanding Visual Cues - detect your partner’s non-verbal signals
  2. Relaxing Under Stress - overcome your triggers
  3. Leading with Repair - determine the apologies that work for your partner
  4. Taking One Thing at a Time - keep every fight under 15 minutes
  5. Being an Advocate - use collaboration to remember you’re on the same team
  6. Negotiating a Win/Win - remember you’re not really winning if your loved one is losing
  7. Bringing It All Together - practice to strengthen your conflict skills for a happier future
Download now, dig in, and watch your relationship improve!

Why is this important in my relationship/fighting with my partner?

Neuroscience

Parts of the brain are wired to detect threat, while others establish love.

Understanding how the brain works allows you to better understand your own and your partner’s behavior.

Attachment Theory

Our early relationships can wreak havoc for a couple if your early patterns are not understood.

 The Win-Win Couple teaches you how to move towards secure attachment- the most healed, healthy version of yourselves in a relationship.

Nervous System Regulation

The Win-Win Couple teaches you proven techniques to help quickly slow distressed couples down so you can repair and reconnect, all while better self-regulating.

Is this right for you and your partner?

We’ll send you the first three videos now for FREE.

Meet your hosts: 

Husband-and-wife team Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT and Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, AMFT co-founded the PACT Institute in 2010 to train mental health professionals in PACT, the Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy®. 

Stan and Tracey co-lead Wired For Love Couple Retreats -- both online and in person across the United States and Europe for couples who want to improve their relationship.

Both Stan and Tracey are in private practice in Agoura Hills, California. 

Details:

  • 8 streaming videos
  • Total run time: 63 minutes
  • Includes 7 exercises with demonstrations
  • Lifetime availability- never expires
  • Secure and private
  • Supplies: Two sets of pen and paper, stopwatch/timer or phone in quiet mode 
  • Cost: $59

This course is not recommended for couples in crisis or considering separation/divorce. We recommend you find a mental health professional to help you in those cases.

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"This was the best workshop ever. Stan and Tracey are phenomenal teachers. The material was amazing, as was my experience."
"Excellent workshop with skilled and caring leaders. Stan is so skilled, and Tracey, warm and a great partner. Learned so much."
"Stan and Tracey modeled that we can be dealing with serious topics but still laugh and be light-hearted about it. They normalized conflict and demonstrated how a secure-functioning relationship can navigate it."
"Stan is an incredible teacher. In a few hours, he was able to impart a depth of understanding that I figured would take months. He doesn’t teach knowledge, he teaches understanding. Very helpful workshop on becoming a better couple."

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"I was truly blown away by how relevant almost every single demo was. People with completely different lives than ours still had similar problems, and Stan and Tracey's advice to them was so helpful to us."
"Simply wonderful. Although we were in Zoom meetings, I experienced no sense of disconnection from Stan, Tracey, or the other participants. The breakouts were fertile and novel learning experiences also. I was thoroughly impressed with the use of technology, its efficiency and effectiveness."
"This retreat helped my marriage tremendously and exceeded my expectations.” “To be better able to communicate and connect with [my partner], this retreat was a game changer for us … I can’t state enough how much this retreat has impacted us."
"We learned to regulate each other and to have rituals that keep us regulated and connected. It has revolutionized our interactions."
"Amazing! I came with an intention to be open, [to] truly understand and learn about myself and my partner and interplay, and absolutely came away with that. Stan and Tracey created a safe environment that allowed us to be vulnerable, which truly enhanced our learning. Thank you!"